When To Say Goodbye?
So many people stay past the point of letting go. We get in a relationship and we give our all and we bring everyone around us in our relationship as well. Before you know it we’re being counted on by so many people. So many people see our highlight reel of a relationship but not our behind the scenes. We get accustomed to shining publicly and struggling privately. Everything in the relationship is a mess and breaking down but we stay because we don’t want to disappoint our supporters or please our haters. We’re staying for the wrong reasons and we know it.
Here are some signs that it’s time to say goodbye:
- You cry more than you smile
- You argue every other day
- You don’t trust your partner
- You’re constantly being physically, verbally, or emotionally abused
- You’ve asked your partner to change over and over and they still haven’t changed
- You’re partner hurts you or disrespects you and has no remorse for doing so
- You feel like you’re in captivity instead of living in freedom
- You fear your partner
- You’ve lost all connection to the outside world
Those are some of the most common signs that it may be time to say goodbye. This is about you, not anyone else. This is about your life and your health. You came into the world alone and you’ll leave alone so you must always make sure that you’re happy. If you’ve done everything that you can do to make it work and it’s still not working then it’s time to walk away from it.
Holding onto someone that’s trying to let you go will only get you dragged through the dirt.
Staying with someone that doesn’t respect you isn’t loyalty; that’s stupidity.
Staying in a toxic relationship isn’t strength; it’s actually weakness.
Love is not pain! It’s actually the opposite!
Thoroughly evaluate the state of your relationship today and make some key decisions to make it better or to call it quits. Only you know where you’re at, what you’ve been through, and where you’d like to be. Make the necessary changes to make sure your future is better than the present.
God Bless,
Tony Gaskins Jr.
www.TonyGaskins.com
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8 Comments
What do you when you tell your partner that you want out of the relationship and they won’t let go?
Wow that validated everything I once was dealing with in my relationship..After 5yrs and 3kids I picked up my things n left Mich and moved to Oklahoma without my mate..It was a hard decision but I was ready to be happy again and yes God played a major part in it. Without him It would not have been possible to list get up and leave with my kids.Jr gave me.strength and reading this blog gives me motivation to continue on and not look back. Thank you!
thank you so much
This message is truly an inspiration. Keep educating and empowering. God has definitely called you to be a messenger of love. Thanks
Such a blessing and right on time too!
Your words are too true for many to believe. Three months ago, I walked away from my marriage. We aren’t divorced yet, but I will be filing soon. I cried often; he cheated often; didn’t trust him; he didn’t respect me and considered himself a man. It isn’t easy, but I will make it all the way through. I’m seeking happiness for ME.
Thank you for writing what I’ve been blind to honestly and openly see.
Great article! You must have a high self-awareness to know when to say goodbye and all those bullet points are ways to test that.
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Thank you so much for this. I have a question. If you were in a relationship that u both hoped would lead to marriage eventually then u find out that one of you cannot have children and the other really wants them what would you do? Would you still marry the person if you are inlove and they also treat you right?