The Labor of Love…
We must always work at love. It changes with every passing day. What got you here won’t keep you here. Work must always be done to get better. Love is a job that you can’t retire from but the benefits are rich! As our media and the world around us change our love lives will change. People are shaped by what they see and hear and ultimately that changes the way we see our partner. In order to stay ahead of the game we must always be willing to go the extra mile where there is no traffic. There are three things that we must always do when laboring in love.
1. Respect Self: this means that you can never let someone degrade you or strip away at who you are as a person. If you let one offense slide then there will be more to come. The behaviors that you reinforce will be the behaviors that repeat themselves. The things that you stop will no longer exist. You teach your partner how to treat you by what you allow! Behind every good man there is a strong woman! Behind every no-good man there is a weak woman; and vice versa. So stand up for yourself. Respect yourself and teach people how to treat you!
2. Occupy time: this means that when you’re in a relationship you must work! Know what your partner has happening in their life and be apart of it. If you know they have free time then schedule something that the two of you can do together. If you know they have to work overtime then be ready for them when their done or if they work from their own office or at home then sit with them while they work. You must occupy time because an idle mind is the devil’s workshop. If you don’t consume your partners idle time then something else will. If your partner starts misusing their time or it seems like you’re getting none of it then you need to refer back to #1 and stand up for yourself.
3. Remain unpredictable: in relationships we often tend to get comfortable. We get in a relationship and then we gain a lot of weight or stop doing the things we did to earn the love, trust, and respect of our partner. I can tell you this, when you get complacent you will get replaced. You may still have your spot in their bed but someone else will have your spot in their heart and your spot in the bed will soon be replaced also! So stay on top of your game! Do everything in your power to keep your body in the same shape it was when you met them or make it much better if you weren’t all that hot then. For the ladies: change your hairstyle often, change your nail polish colors, lipstick colors, and style of dress. Be versatile and make him fall in love all over again every few months. For the men: do the things you did to get her over and over again. Keep your body in shape, your mind and your heart in shape also. You can’t give her dinner dates and flowers to get her and then expect a few hugs a week and some chocolates will keep her. When it feels like love is leaving then start all over and win their love the same way you did it the first time.
This is the labor of love! We are never where we need to be and we must always work to get better! What’s here today can be gone tomorrow if we don’t work extra hard to keep it!
Tony Gaskins Jr.
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