Q: How do I get over my ex?

A: Usually we have trouble getting over our ex because we have formed a “soul tie.”

A “soul tie” is a bond that connects us to that person spiritually. The strongest type of soul tie comes from sex. During sex our spirits conjoin in an attempt to bring us closer but also create another spirit. Even though we may separate ourselves from the person we can still be conjoined spiritually.

Our spirits are an extension of God. He created us to be fruitful and replenish the Earth. He also told us how we should carry our bodies and in what ways we should connect spiritually with others. When we connect sexually outside of marriage we create an ungodly soul tie. This soul tie makes us weak instead of strong. It stresses us instead of comforting us. It breaks us down instead of building us up.

We can leave someone that we were sexually active with and still be fixated on them for months or years.

Symptoms of a soul tie:

Chronic thoughts of the person
Sleepless nights
Loss of appetite
Very emotional/moody
Severe stomach pain or headaches following thoughts of the person
Chronic anger
Chronic fatigue
Constantly arguing with others

The cure for a soul tie is a spiritual break through. It’s our spirit that is conjoined to another human being so it’s our spirit that must be renewed. We must free ourselves of this “tie” by cleansing our mind, body, and spirit.

Tools to break a soul tie:

Prayer
Fasting (a controlled diet to cleanse the body & elevate the mind)
Meditation
Life Coaching
Complete separation from the person (if kids aren’t involved)
Throwing away all memorabilia of the person i.e. clothes, gifts, picutres, etc
TIME (teachings, inspiration, meditation, everyday)

What we must realize is that this is no easy fix! A soul tie is a consequence of a choice we made to be with this person. It’s life. It happens to everyone. We must accept that fact and then take the necessary steps to break the soul time. It will take time. If you give it time but take no action then nothing will change. But if you give it time and take the necessary steps to change it then you will have a break through and you will be able to move on spiritually, emotionally, mentally, relationally, and physically.

With love,
Tony Gaskins Jr.

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